So I am going to make this part of the story extremely quick because the first part was so long. Here goes:
The following day we were having a little birthday get together for Zion turning 1. Nothing fancy by any means just a cake and a happy birthday song. So my mother comes over and following behind her is my brother Chris. I wasn’t going to make an issue about it because he is their uncle and its a family event so he was welcome. Turns out he was really just coming over to ask for his money which he waited until Michael had left before asking. Which turned into me telling him I do not want to deal with this right now and that I already told him I was sending a bill pay check from our bank for the time he worked and it would be included in that check I just needed his new address [which he still hadn't given me] and I started to remove myself from the room. I know when I am reaching my limit so I did what was best and attempted to remove myself from the room.I had Zion in my arms and next thing you know as I am passing my brother he continues to mouth off which is when I snapped and explained to him in a very assertive tone the he is lucky to be getting paid anything for babysitting at all because of the crap he had pulled, on top of his attitude with me about it afterward. He then jumped to his feet and advanced me screaming at me…so close so that I could feel his spit on my face as he was screaming at me. Keep in mind I have Zion in my arms. I felt like such a loser that I was even allowing myself to participate in this argument because not only was Zion in my arms but 3 of the other kids were out in the living room. I am VERY grateful to Carly [our friend that was visiting us] for coming out from the room she was in on the phone to retrieve the kids and get them back to their room so they would not have to be exposed to such ignorant acts. It got so heated my mother and Chris’ girlfriend had to get in the middle of us and remove Chris from the situation. There were a lot of mean things said by Chris that day and I will admit I could have been nicer and more mature about it but he was IMO completely in the wrong. All I was asking for was a bit of time to cool down and move on. Which if I am just given enough time and space I have no trouble moving on, but I was not given that.
So now we have a family feud going on because after Chris left my mother decided to stay behind and talk with me about how I should have been nicer and I cannot blame Chris because he doesn’t understand how I feel because he doesn’t have kids. I am sorry but I was 13 years old and would not have done something as stupid as he did. But had I made a mistake of this magnitude, at this point in the situation I would have been so humbled and ashamed and begging for forgiveness and felt just horrible. Which is clearly not the case in this instance.
It just makes me sad [which I have been feeling alot about regarding family/friend relationships lately] that right now not only did Chris manage to screw up the work I have been putting into forming a relationship with him but he also manage to drag my mother into the middle and now we are on the rocks, because as always she will defend Chris to the death, and her golden boy can do no wrong.
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